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Going Back To Work After Having A Baby: Advice From A Hong Kong Mama

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Working Mamas, you’ve got this.

Having a baby is one of the biggest things you’ll do in your life, if not the biggest. While it’s a joyous time, it can also bring about a whole world of emotions and thoughts that you may have never experienced before – and that’s all before you even think about going back to work! Just as you start to feel like you’ve got the hang of things at home with your precious little one, suddenly your maternity leave is up and it’s time to head back to a different kind of normal. With mum guilt, anxious thoughts and getting your head around the logistics of it all, read on to understand why you’re not alone in this when it comes to saying “Mummy loves you, I’ll see you later!”.

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1. It’s Natural To Feel Nervous Going Back To Work

There’s no sugar coating it, maternity leave always feels too short, but in Hong Kong, that’s often because it is too short (that’s changing soon, thankfully!), so it’s normal to have the overwhelming feeling of being not quite mentally ready or prepared to go back to work. The questions are probably whirling through your head:

  • Will my baby bond with another caregiver?
  • Will his or her caregiver take good care of my baby?
  • Will she have enough milk, mental stimulation, or social time?
  • Will work be the same or will my co-workers have moved on without me?
  • Will I have somewhere to pump?
  • Can I still travel for work or work the hours that I used to?
  • I haven’t slept several nights in a row, how can I be functional at work?

It’s no secret that women are pretty hard on themselves, and separation anxiety from a little human being that you’ve carried for nine months and then spent days and nights looking after is only normal. Just try to remember that everything is a phase, including this one, and while it is emotionally and sometimes even physically challenging, you will get through it and everything will be ok.

2. You Might Surprise Yourself

I was surprised to get back to my job and feel a wave of relief at having a routine, a sense of control over the outcome of what I was doing and being an expert at my job – and I definitely had to talk myself out of feeling guilty for feeling that way. Us mamas tend to counteract that by taking ourselves on a guilt trip, but the reality is, the transition is probably harder on you than it is on them and you’ve likely done an amazing job equipping your little ones with everything they need to survive the day without you. Babies are very clever and will adapt to the new routine. You’ll be surprised at how quickly both of you will adjust and thrive in the new situation.

3. You’ll Appreciate Your Time Together

There’s no feeling quite like coming home from work and your baby’s eyes light up when you enter the room. That soon turns into a big smile and squealing giggle, and then a screaming “Mummy!” as they run into your arms (don’t worry if your little baby doesn’t do this yet, they’ll get to this stage eventually!). You learn to carve out dedicated time for work and family and enjoy each part to the fullest. I definitely found myself not minding as much waking up at 5am to feed and spend some time snuggling before the pre-work pump session.

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4. Let’s Talk About Pumping

This is not an easy one in Hong Kong. Many offices still aren’t well equipped to provide the space or facilities to pump in a comfortable and hygienic way, but there are things you can do to help improve your situation. First off, set the expectation early on with your manager or HR partner that you’ll need time and space to pump so that they can do their best to prepare for it. It is your right to take time to pump and have a hygienic place to do it. I made sure I got a portable pump that is battery operated, so I wasn’t constrained to being near a wall socket. My Youha The One breast pump was small enough to carry in my purse to and from work every day, along with four milk collection bottles, one set of pumping parts and tubing, a cooler bag for transport and a hands-free pumping bra.

Find a room that locks, isn’t a glass office and, if it has windows, bring something to cover it up. After pumping you’ll need a refrigerator and a sink. Breastmilk is naturally bacteria-fighting, so I washed with hot water and didn’t sterilise the pump parts between pumps and stored them in the fridge (and then sterilised them once I got home), but if you prefer to, you can bring microwaveable steam sterilising bags. Don’t forget to block your calendar for the times you plan to pump and book the pumping room if the option is there so that you can be sure to pump at regular times to avoid clogged ducts or a rapidly dropping milk supply. Stay hydrated, wear breastfeeding-friendly clothing if the pumping room doesn’t lock, and try to spend that time catching up on photos and videos of your little one whilst not stressing about how much you’re pumping. In the early days back at the office, you may want to bring some breast pads while you’re adjusting, just in case you don’t get to pump when you were intending to! It doesn’t hurt to have some snacks in your pump bag as well…

Read more: Your Ultimate Breastfeeding Survival Guide: 10 Steps To Positive Nursing

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5. Get Into A “New Normal” Routine

Setting up a good routine for your little one and you will take away a lot of stress. Your little one will adjust more easily to their new caregivers and will be less likely to be upset about your absence and refusing to take a bottle or nap while you’re away. If the main caregiver (while you’re at work) is their Aunty or Helper, make sure they have a small network of friends and babies of similar age nearby that they are comfortable setting up regular playdates with independently. If your baby is older, consider getting them into a playgroup, you’ll get to kill a few birds with one stone in providing your baby with the stimulation, social interaction and stable routine all in one.

6. You’re Still Their Mama

This is probably the hardest part. When your little one develops an attachment to their other caregiver(s) and it seems like you’re being replaced as the centre of their universe. Yes, they may become accustomed to being comforted by someone else when they’re upset, but there is no one like their mama and as they grow older and can express themselves better, you will see that too. Also, take comfort in knowing that whoever is looking after them when you’ve gone back to work is doing a good job and is able to comfort them. These days with cameras, facetime and videos, we’ve come further than ever in being able to share in those moments as they grow, even though remotely. I watched my son’s first steps on video and watched him do it again when I got home that day, but if you prefer you can ask your daytime caregiver not to tell you that it’s happened so that you can experience it for the first time in person – no one will know the difference!

Ultimately, there’ll be days when you’re winning and others where you feel like you’re failing at being a professional as well as being a mother, but the truth is, you’re taking on a huge role managing both while being a great role model for the future generation as well. Finally, just try to remember one thing: you are Wonderwoman and you’ve got this! 

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This is part of a special series, “SassyMama Supports World Breastfeeding Week, in partnership with Gleneagles Hospital Hong Kong“. For more posts on breastfeeding in Hong Kong, click here.

Featured image courtesy of Getty Images, image 1 courtesy of Kyle Glenn via Unsplash, image 2 courtesy of Alex Purcell Garcia, image 3 courtesy of Paul Hanaoka via Unsplash.

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